Love is...

Extracted from an article that I read online recently.. So true.. Never really feel and understand the truth of it till now..

.. we deserve to be treated appreciatively, and a better one..

The Language of Love: There are times when you and your loved one will not see eye-to-eye and things may become heated which can lead to things being said and done that no one is proud of. That said, loving someone should serve as a buffer in many ways to help avoid an all-out verbal throw-down.
There is no room for name-calling, insults or verbal abuse in love. If someone is speaking to you in a manner that hurts or offends you, draw a line in the sand and let them know you will not tolerate being spoken to in that manner and then don’t.

Love Is Spelled With a Capital R-As in Respect. You are a full and complete human being and you matter. There is no excuse for anyone to put you down, try and control you or convince you that you are less valuable than they are in any way. Everything about you is priceless; your values, your opinions, your needs, wants and desires and they matter as much as the next person’s. A person who loves you will listen to your concerns, speak to you with respect and value what you say, think and feel.

Love Don’t Cost a Thing- If you are paying for a relationship with chunks and bits of your self-esteem or long periods of time spent hurting, fighting or in turmoil, the price is too high. If someone is telling you that you need to provide them material items in order for them to stay (this includes living off of you) the price might be too high.

Love Is Sincere- This means that when someone who cares about you has hurt you and apologizes they will do all they can not to repeat the same mistakes.

Your love is precious and valuable which means that it should be honored and respected daily. The fact is, none of us have to stay with anyone we do not want to and so we can all learn a great deal by understanding that the person standing beside us chooses to share their life and journey with us. We choose to share ours with them. No one has to put up with anyone else, deal with their drama or wallow in their lows but we stick around because we care about the person and are willing to endure the negatives because the positives are solid.

There will be times when the negatives outweigh the positives but if this time defines most of the relationship, it might be a good idea to do a bit of emotional inventory. Your best life is impossible if spent with someone who uses, abuses or disregards you. You deserve more